Anger is meant to make the world a better place, yet sadly, our anger usually leaves a trail of destruction. We lash out in anger but our intent is not to help, but to hurt others. Our anger is retaliation to those we think have wronged us. And we want it to sting.
Yet, just as we are about to make the crucial first step of admitting the harm our anger is causing, the “experts” wave the latest research in our face. Suppressing anger, we are told, is psychologically damaging. We must learn to “vent.”
When psychologists say ventilation is beneficial, we must ask, beneficial for whom?